Parenting Advice for Single Parents on Raising Children

One of the toughest jobs that anyone in the world can have is that of a parent. Raising children is even more difficult for those who have to undertake the job without having a partner to help parent the kids.

Single parents face many more challenges because they often have to be both mother and father as well as hold down a job to keep a roof over their family’s heads and put food on the table. It’s hard to be everything to everyone but with these parenting help, you will learn how to be effectively raising children without pulling out all of your hair.

Dealing With Argumentative Children And Cell Phones

By Colleen Langenfeld

How to deal with argumentative children when it comes to cell phones and the tremendous influx of all kinds of technology has become a real source of frustration for many parents.

In our own home, we have had to deal with out-of-control texting and the consequences on our teen’s behavior and family life.

In our home, cell phones are thought of as a privilege – a want and not a need. Even for adults. After all, we all got along just fine for the majority of our lives without cell phones and we still can, although some adjustments would have to be made.

If you are finding yourself often arguing with your child over cell phone usage and feeling guilty because “everyone has one, after all”, stop now. Here are some things to think over before your next confrontation with your child.

It’s a phone.

While phones CAN be used as entertainment centers, organizers, navigators and information gather-ers, they don’t need to do any of that to be used as a phone. Often parents realize that and then use the argument that they want their child to have a cell phone for safety reasons.

If that is truly what you want a cell phone to do for your child, then get a basic phone with about twenty minutes of talk time a month and no texting.

Perhaps you don’t want your child to be without the latest technology. Do you know why you feel that way? Very often the gadgets in our kids’ lives get in the way of them doing the important jobs they are supposed to be focusing on, such as doing well in school, treating their families appropriately, and learning how to discipline themselves daily to get done what they are tasked with accomplishing.

Encouraging kids to always want the latest and greatest is a huge trap that can follow them into adulthood in the form of overspending and never learning how to say no to themselves. It’s also a great way to actually develop an argumentative child.

- The problems.

If your child doesn’t have a cell phone, unless she borrows one, she cannot do sexting, sit at the dinner table rudely texting, run up data charges or make you wish you had never given her that phone.

Will she whine and complain? Maybe. Depends upon your child, what she’s used to getting and the boundaries in your home.

Sound harsh? Not at all. As we already talked about, some parents have the notion that they owe their kids the latest technology. Not true. What you owe your kids is a backbone, so that when they ask for things they are not ready for, don’t need, have not personally earned, or will tempt them to do things beyond their maturity level you can and will say “no”. That’s a parent’s job. That’s leadership.

When you are dealing with argumentative children and cell phones, take the time to remember what’s really important and what you, as a parent, are trying to teach your child. Growing up to be a productive, kind and generous human being requires a lot more focused work than using a cell phone.

Trust me. Your child will learn how to use a cell phone at some point. He can learn that at any time in an afternoon. But if you don’t teach him how to be honest, trustworthy, patient and respectful, who will teach him that?

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Single Dad Parenting – Spending Time With Your Kids

By Kurt Evans

Often times it doesn’t matter what you do with your kids, they just want to know that you’re there for them and that you love them. As a parent, of course you have to learn how to say no, so that your kid doesn’t grow up to be a spoiled brat.

Saying no can be a hard thing to do; especially when they look at you with those cute little puppy dog eyes. How could you possibly say no to that? As the parent, you have to stick to your guns; so to speak, and stand your ground. I know how easy it is to just give in to them and give them what they want so they’ll leave you alone and, that can have dire consequences. If you need proof; just look at how many people are incarcerated in today’s society. That picture, is the direct result of bad parenting; in my opinion.

Remember, you’re the parent, you’re in charge, and you make the rules. It’s your job to be responsible. Yes; I said it, parenting is a job. You don’t get paid in a monetary sense and yet, you do get paid in love, pride, and feelings of internal joy. You get to relate to another human being and be a living example for your child. You get to be a role model and you get to show them everything you know when the time is right.

I say when the time is right because there are certain things in life that are age appropriate. For example, talking about sex or learning how to drive; there has to be a certain level of maturity for these things.

I think it’s important to relate to your child on their level. This teaches your child the importance of interaction and it gets them involved in something that isn’t just about themselves. This is all a growing process for both you and your child. You may only notice the child’s growth and, other adults will notice the change in you.

Some other things that you and your child learn, is how to communicate with each other. Every single person is an individual and that’s an important thing to remember when you are dealing with children. I think our society has the habit of putting people into a stereotyped group with the assumption that they are all the same. Granted, they may be the same in a certain area or with a certain characteristic and, the important thing to remember is that each one is an individual with different wants and needs, with different learning styles and with different values.

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