Parenting Advice for Single Parents on Raising Children

One of the toughest jobs that anyone in the world can have is that of a parent. Raising children is even more difficult for those who have to undertake the job without having a partner to help parent the kids.

Single parents face many more challenges because they often have to be both mother and father as well as hold down a job to keep a roof over their family’s heads and put food on the table. It’s hard to be everything to everyone but with these parenting help, you will learn how to be effectively raising children without pulling out all of your hair.

Teaching Reading and Writing to Your Child – The Benefits to Parents

By Catherine Njau

Reading and writing with your children can help you to build better relationships with them. Reading involves interacting with your child and allows you to set a time aside that you specifically spend with your child. As you create a relaxed and fun atmosphere reading together, your relationship can become stronger. The more opportunities you get to be with your child alone, the easier it can get for both of you to share, and parents find that other issues affecting their children can be expressed, and once out in the open, are easier to discuss.

Stories in books can be used to explain difficult situations and discuss confusing topics with your children. Whether you’re at home, on the bus, in the shops or at the doctor’s surgery or even hospital, there are countless opportunities to help your child to learn. Teaching your children to read and write gives you the chance to talk with them and read together, plus there are fun ways to develop their writing skills too. As a Parent you will have improved confidence in your ability to provide support for your children. Parents and especially first time parents are buffeted from all directions with information on what they should and should not do. Often parents feel inadequate, and at a loss as to how best to care for and support their children. The simple act of reading and being able to achieve positive results with your child can be a big boost for your confidence and can be a building block for continued support and involvement in the growth and development of your child.

Teaching your child to read and write can provide opportunities to take part in organised activities based in schools or other venues, and form new friendships with other parents through school activities, a neutral place where you can take part in enjoyable, focused activities. This can be particularly useful if you don’t live with your child or your everyday life does not provide opportunities to meet and mix with different people.

Parents with low literacy levels themselves can use this opportunity to learn and develop their own skills. Being able to read and write with your children can provide the motivation and support to join a more formal education class, and create opportunities for voluntary or paid work in schools or the wider community.

So what can you as a parent to help your child read and write better?

As a Parent you need to talk and listen to your children in order to make a good start in teaching them how to read and write. This will give your children an opportunity to hear how language is put together into sentences and prepare them to become readers and writers.

You need to set aside even just 10 minutes a day to read stories with your child as this helps build important skills as well as capturing your child’s interest in books. Books are a rich source of information for your child because they provide certain words which may not be used frequently in everyday conversations. From their earliest days babies enjoy listening to stories and looking at books.

In order to make teaching your child to read and write as easy and enjoyable as possible, choose books that you both enjoy and then spend time reading together and telling stories. You could talk about the pictures and characters in the books and make up your own. You could discuss how your children’s heroes might use books and reading to achieve the things they do.

Teaching your children to read and write does not have to always be formal. You can talk to your children about the world around them and read as you walk down the street and round the shops, pointing out signs and words and talking about them.

Reading together will also help you as a parent to correct your children outside of a disciplining situation which takes the pressure away for both parties. As a parent, you can use examples in the books you are using to teach your child to read and write to help them see things differently. Involve your children in your reading interests, and buy them books as presents. Joining a library and taking them there is another good way of introducing new books [http://www.kewad.com/].

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Dealing With Argumentative Children And Cell Phones

By Colleen Langenfeld

How to deal with argumentative children when it comes to cell phones and the tremendous influx of all kinds of technology has become a real source of frustration for many parents.

In our own home, we have had to deal with out-of-control texting and the consequences on our teen’s behavior and family life.

In our home, cell phones are thought of as a privilege – a want and not a need. Even for adults. After all, we all got along just fine for the majority of our lives without cell phones and we still can, although some adjustments would have to be made.

If you are finding yourself often arguing with your child over cell phone usage and feeling guilty because “everyone has one, after all”, stop now. Here are some things to think over before your next confrontation with your child.

It’s a phone.

While phones CAN be used as entertainment centers, organizers, navigators and information gather-ers, they don’t need to do any of that to be used as a phone. Often parents realize that and then use the argument that they want their child to have a cell phone for safety reasons.

If that is truly what you want a cell phone to do for your child, then get a basic phone with about twenty minutes of talk time a month and no texting.

Perhaps you don’t want your child to be without the latest technology. Do you know why you feel that way? Very often the gadgets in our kids’ lives get in the way of them doing the important jobs they are supposed to be focusing on, such as doing well in school, treating their families appropriately, and learning how to discipline themselves daily to get done what they are tasked with accomplishing.

Encouraging kids to always want the latest and greatest is a huge trap that can follow them into adulthood in the form of overspending and never learning how to say no to themselves. It’s also a great way to actually develop an argumentative child.

- The problems.

If your child doesn’t have a cell phone, unless she borrows one, she cannot do sexting, sit at the dinner table rudely texting, run up data charges or make you wish you had never given her that phone.

Will she whine and complain? Maybe. Depends upon your child, what she’s used to getting and the boundaries in your home.

Sound harsh? Not at all. As we already talked about, some parents have the notion that they owe their kids the latest technology. Not true. What you owe your kids is a backbone, so that when they ask for things they are not ready for, don’t need, have not personally earned, or will tempt them to do things beyond their maturity level you can and will say “no”. That’s a parent’s job. That’s leadership.

When you are dealing with argumentative children and cell phones, take the time to remember what’s really important and what you, as a parent, are trying to teach your child. Growing up to be a productive, kind and generous human being requires a lot more focused work than using a cell phone.

Trust me. Your child will learn how to use a cell phone at some point. He can learn that at any time in an afternoon. But if you don’t teach him how to be honest, trustworthy, patient and respectful, who will teach him that?

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